Consciously consuming clothing

To those who know me, they know I have a love for clothing, style and sewing. In my free time I enjoy thrifting, watching sewing youtubers, learning about recent and historical fashion trends, and going through piles of fabric, dreaming of what I could create.

There are so many ways now to create a style, and getting guidance on how. Find your color season using Pinterest. Get a Kibbe consultation. Read these seven paragraphs to determine your style essence. I love learning about all these ways of curating a “look” that is meant to be perfect for my specific appearance. But lately I’ve been thinking differently about clothing.

Today, trends change in a week. Some items, that are beautiful, unique or quirky, are only worn once by a person for fear of repeating an outfit. Investing in quality pieces may be the method of some, but for younger individuals, it is not the norm. For people who love style trends, they quickly go online and pick up the latest fashion piece, which they may be obsessed with for a while, but will likely be “over” or revamped by the next year. Clothing is treated as replaceable. Largely temporary. Especially in fast fashion.

Over the last few years, I’ve noticed how my relationship with clothes has changed. I’ve always been a lover of unique pieces, but whereas before I might go thrifting once a month and pick up a piece or two I’d keep for years, now I was buying thrifted and new clothes regularly, tracking store sales and buying items that were unique, but then wearing them infrequently until my next new shipment.

I know these habits directly correlate with the lifestyle I’ve adapted since the pandemic. I’ve been debating for a while how I can change these habits. My initial thought? Give up buying any new clothing for a year. Extreme? Yes. Realistic? For me… not yet.

Thus, I have challenged myself not to buy any new clothing for one whole month. Officially for me, the challenge began June 13. But then I thought of another component.

What if I limited what clothes I had access to also for a month? Say – to 30 items.

Essentially, a summer capsule wardrobe. This idea both thrilled and excited me. And after initial hesitation, last night I separated twenty-four items out of my closet and onto a bureau in my bedroom, limiting myself to them.

Now, some of you may have just read “twenty-four items” and be confused. There is a reason I only picked twenty-four out of thirty items from my wardrobe. I actually did not know what else I wanted to add. Thus I decided I’d give myself “wiggle room” with six additional pieces that I could add from my closet throughout the month if I needed a special item. For instance – I already know I will need a bathing suit at some point, but chose to wait until I leave on my beach trip to make my final selection.

Of course I have some exceptions. Clothing items for working out are not included, nor are pajamas. I also decided that anything I sew within the month can be added to the capsule wardrobe and not count towards my thirty piece total. Wearing a pre-sewn item to church is allowed, and I have unlimited access to accessories and shoes.

I made these exceptions for several reasons. The first being I sometimes get very dirty working out, especially if its on my family’s farm, and don’t have time to do laundry every day. Thus, if a clothing item is being worn just to exercise in, it does not count as a regular clothing item. I also have fallen off my sewing streak. In order to encourage myself to sew more, I am giving myself the ability to sew items for my wardrobe.

I must confess, I have already finished a sewing a pair of shorts this morning, so I do believe it is working.

The curious thing about this challenge? I’m already beginning to see how there is clothing I own that I’m not event interested in wearing. Hopefully by the end of this experiment I can not only downsize my closet further but also be more conscientious about my closet habits, sew more and be less dependent on the trend cycle.

Having a “Hot Girl Summer” or whatever that means

Every once in a while a phrase will catch on and be the “it” thing everyone is craving to have, achieve, or celebrate. “YOLO,” “dad bod” and “bae” are just some of the phrases that have infiltrated our vernacular from the internet or pop culture.

This summer it seems like every one wants a “hot girl summer.” While I instinctively think of 90 degree weather, sweat, being outdoors and tank tops, I know that’s not what this phrase is referencing. While I only just learned of the phrase this year, Urban dictionary has definitions of a “hot girl summer” from 2019. While some reference Megan Thee Stallion as the creator of the term, my personal favorite definition says in part that it is “a term used to define girls being unapologetically themselves, having fun, loving yourself, and doing YOU.” Some other definitions reference increased promiscuity as a defining characteristic of this phrase, but at its core it is not.

Me, Sarah, having a “hot girl summer,” 2020.

As a “girl” who is now 25 years old, hearing the term “hot girl summer” and trying to apply it to myself feels almost like a joke. I am young but the idea of unlimited freedom tied to this term is something I could not imagine. The responsibilities that come with having a full time job, financial obligations, managing family and friends as well as figuring out what I actually would like to do in life make summer another season of sorting everything out.

That being said, a critical part of life is living in the present and feeling the joy that comes with that. And often I feel that people get tied up in the tiny details of life that contribute little to no joy – social media, that bad memory from two years ago, the things we cannot control.

So in an effort to live #mybestlife (wow so quirky, not cringe XD ) I’m trying to come up with a more mature phrase that fits my 25-year old needs. “Hot lady season” is fairly close to the original but lacks some of the freedom that comes with being a girl. The adjective “boss” has also become more popular over the years but feels too powerful for the vibe I’m going for – although there is nothing wrong with being powerful.

I feel like at its essence hot girl summer encourages individuals to be whatever they want to be. And for me that means being a woman – responsible, hardworking, respected and compassionate – not childish. While being hot is always a plus, being stunning, gorgeous, beautiful, courageous, intelligent or bold are all adjectives I would rather hear someone whisper about me. And although summer will always be linked to the idea of freedom from responsibility, I want to embody this energy in all parts of my life, not just for a season, hour or year.

Perhaps over-analyzing a cute phrase like “hot girl summer” makes it lose its zest. But as someone who actively wants to keep growing and fine-tuning what it is I want in life, I can’t help but mull over these nuances. Do I even want a “hot girl summer?” Or do I want to be a “boss-lady?” Do I want a “kick you in the rear decade?” Or a “manic-pixie summer?”

I can’t really say for sure if there even is a saying that could embody all the goals and dreams I have for myself. But if I were to summarize it, I think the best I could do is this: financially responsible, loving relationships, a sense of adventure and happiness all around.

The lessons I’ve learned

If I could think back on where I was a year ago, and see myself where I am today, I never would have predicted how happy and content I am, nor believed that so many good things could happen when it feels like everyone is telling you the world is falling apart.

Below is a list of the major personal take aways I’ve had from my “year” – March 2020 into 2021.

  1. Have faith things will work out
    • If 2021 has done anything, it has made me believe things really do happen for a reason. The COVID-19 pandemic was completely unexpected, and the first several months of it I was paranoid and anxious. However, looking back, I can see that the pandemic enabled me to move out of a toxic living situation with my landlord, reunite with my family, move to an area I love and be closer to friends. I am 1000xs happier then I was at the beginning of 2020, even before the pandemic. It has enabled me to increase my savings, become more involved in my community and develop new relationships. None of this would have been possible had my entire life not been thrown upside down.
  2. Learn the difference between what you can control vs. cannot control
    • For the longest time my anxiety related to the pandemic directly correlated with trying to control everything in my power to not get COVID-19. Despite this, I still got COVID. I remember I left my house once in a two week time period to pick up food, followed all the social distancing guidelines, and I still got sick. My case was fortunately very mild, and no one I lived with got it from me. Afterwards, I was angry, because I had done nothing “wrong” to get the disease. But it made me learn that just because you do everything “right” doesn’t mean everything always goes to plan. It’s helped me release a lot of unspoken pressure I had on myself to do everything perfectly.
  3. Remember to take time for yourself
    • I feel like this is one point I have learned and re-learned over and over again the past few months. This year has served as a reminder that taking time for oneself can mean socializing, taking on hobbies, or spending healthy time alone to either reflect or recharge. It all depends on what you need in the moment. It takes time to learn how to recognize what you need, but it is valuable in life.
  4. Don’t be afraid to communicate your thoughts
    • In the past, I’ve always considered myself a direct communicator. But this year has shown me the value of speaking up when people are personally offensive. Sometimes, they do not realize that what they have said is harmful to an individual. Other times, they say it out of spite. Regardless, saying something, rather then glazing over a possible confrontation, is better for the psyche.
  5. What feels like a step back can sometimes actually be a step forward
    • Life is not a linear path. Moving back home felt like the opposite of my goal in 2020, but it has been the best thing for me in terms of being a happier person. Along with this, giving up on goals does not automatically mean failure. Sometime a break from a challenge offers time to be refreshed and get a new perspective, leading to unexpected solutions. In my personal life there have been too many ironic moments where I have accepted that something is just not meant to happen and instead chose to have faith that things will fall into place when they are meant to, only for them to almost magically happen before my eyes. Releasing the pressure on yourself to always be moving in one direction gives freedom for things to fall into place that you never expected.
The paths of life are often unexpected, and can lead you in directions you never anticipated. But this is part of what makes life – the surprises and challenges of things not going to plan. I am hopeful for the future, blessed to be where I am, and faithful with God that things will fall into place.

A 24 by 24 by 24 Birthday Update

A golden sunset in Nassau, Bahamas.

Last year I made a bucket list to complete by my “golden birthday.” Twenty-four goals to accomplish before my 24th birthday on February 24, 2020 (hence 24 by 24 by 24).

I’ve always enjoyed setting goals for myself. By making a bucket list with my birthday serving as the deadline, it became a way for me to document the year and challenge myself. Some of the goals were surprisingly easy, while others made me realize how big of a procrastinator I can be. Below I have listed out each goal I accomplished, as well as a note about each one.

24 by 24 by 24

Here I am in the dress I sewed.
  1. Try a new restaurant each month
    • Successfully completed!
  2. Do a 100-day challenge
    • Walked 10,000 steps a day from May through August.
  3. Go to a festival (of some sort)
    • Attended the Maryland Sheep and Wool Festival.
  4. Sew an Outfit
    • I successful sewed a satin green dress.
  5. Find a new hobby  (join a club)
    • I have become active in a local organization that includes volunteering and working on agricultural projects.
  6. Have a Photo Shoot
    • Technically, I did do a photo shoot this past summer (although it was with my sister, and not with my wonderful friend Gillian (hi!)).
  7. Start and keep a gratitude journal (at least 2xs a week)
    • This goal was surprisingly one of the easiest to complete, and I think it has benefited remembering all the little things I have to be grateful for.
  8. Bake a dessert and gift some of it out
    • This was accomplished! I baked a batch of chocolate chip cookies and gifted some out to my friends and their families.
  9. Designate time each week for meditation
    • In my opinion, I did accomplish this goal. I created a habit this year of going hiking at least once a week by myself. I found that this time often proved to be a good time for self reflection and creativity.
  10. Go to a baseball football game (with friends!)
    • I ended up NOT attending a baseball game with my friends – however I did attend a football game! And for that reason I would like to consider this goal a success, even though it was not completed.
  11. Go hiking with a new friend
    • Completed!
  12. Write a collection of poems/short story
    • Wrote some poetry while fulfilling my writing retreat goal!
  13. Read 24 books
    • I read 23 of 24 books.
  14. Have a writing retreat with Laura and Abby
    • Participated in CampNano Wrimo 🙂
  15. Go to a new city by myself and spend a day there
    • I unintentionally accomplished this goal! I planned a trip to Hawaii with my friend who accidentally missed her flight! Thus I arrived in Hawaii eight hours ahead of her and took that time to walk around Waikiki.
  16. Give up soda for a month
    • Accomplished! After a week of not drinking any soda, I stopped missing it. While I do occasionally drink soda now, I certainly have cut back.
  17. Go to a concert
    • This is a goal I accomplished but I cannot remember for the life of me who I saw. Interestingly enough, I already have been invited to four concerts for this upcoming year! Although, I do not think I will make it to all of them.
  18. Take a class on something I’m interested in (surfing, painting, ext.)
    • This goal I initially thought I did not accomplish, until I remembered that for my job I have taken several courses this past year in topics I’m interested in. These included classes about drying herbs and niche agricultural markets.
  19. Run an under 10-minute mile
    • Surprisingly enough, this goals was actually not difficult to complete!
  20. Visit my friend Katie
    • This goal was one of the ones that I added as an alternative at my six-month check in. Excitingly, I was able to visit my friend Katie before she moved across the country.
  21. Clean out my room
    • This was another alternative goal. And while it originally was grouped with the goal to “donate clothes,” I separated them because of how much time they each took to do!
  22. Donate Clothes
    • My closet is able to breathe.

Looking at this list, I only accomplished 22 goals, rather then 24. A 91% success rate. I also did not achieve my overarching goal of completing all these items; however, I still consider the year an amazing success. It has been filled with both positive and negative surprises. I had more adventures then I could ever imagine, but also personal family matters I never could have anticipated. My 23rd year was remarkable, and it is only in retrospect I can appreciate everything I accomplished.

In front of the United States Capitol in Washington D.C.

Of the goals I listed for myself, I am most proud of having read 23 books. Although this is one shy of my goal(24 books), I am so happy to be in the habit of reading regularly. While I enjoyed many of the books I read, the one that stood out the most would be Code Name Verity by Elizabeth E. Wein.

However, here are the goals I did not complete before turning 24. Some I added throughout the year, which is why I have more than only two goals which I did not accomplish:

  • Make something extreme (think art)
    • I sadly did not make anything I would consider extreme.
  • Visit Nicole in NY State
    • However, I did see her when she returned to Maryland. I hope to see her eventually in New York!
  • Sing karaoke
    • I realized I love singing but not in front of people.
  • LOTR Extended Movie Marathon/visit Kamille in NYC!
    • This was not accomplished, however I still plan on seeing my friend hopefully soon!
  • Do a styling trip with Tevin
    • After talking with my friend Tevin, it became apparent that our work schedules made this very difficult to near impossible. We still want to meet up for this fun activity.

Of these goals, the ones I want to accomplish this year are making trips to visit my friends Kamille and Nicole. I rarely get to see them, and they live close enough I could always make a three-day trip out to them.

I am now debating if I should create another list for my next birthday – a 25 by 25. While it is not nearly as catchy of a title, I think there is definitely potential. Any ideas, suggestions or advice is welcome for my next year of goals. 🙂

Mountains on Maui.

Welcome to the 20’s: Bucket list

I am addicted to bucket lists. I love setting myself challenges, and checking off each one as I accomplish them. I may or may not even have one I’m still currently working on. However, for me this is no reason to not create another.

While I do like to set timelines for my bucket lists, I also recognize that often they can carry over past my “deadline.” In 2019, I had 20 goals, of which I accomplished 15. Which, is not bad. For 2020 though, I would like to do better, and have higher than a 75% success rate.

A new dawn, a new day, a new year. Welcome 2020!

Types of goals that can be included in bucket list can be personal, financial, emotional, health-related or just for fun! Often I create a mix of goals. There are some that require multiple steps to accomplish and planning, and others that I only aim to do once. I have provided a list of some goal types and examples below.

  • Personal goals: find a new hobby, clean out room/house, donate clothes, volunteer more, ext.
  • Financial goals: create a budget, limit spending, save a certain amount of money each paycheck, create a 401k, pay off loans or debt, ext.
  • Emotional goals: start a gratitude journal, have a designated time each week for self care, check in with friends an loved ones consistently, ext.
  • Health-related goals: exercise three times a week, eat healthier, get eight hours of sleep, ext.
  • Just for Fun goals: eat at a new restaurant each month, create an art piece to hang in your home, go on a hike, travel more, ext.

So without any further ado, here are my goals for 2020.

2020 Goals

  1. Read 20 Books. Because it’s 2020.
  2. Create a blog post at least once a month. Last year I was surprised by how consistently I posted for the first several months, before gradually becoming less and less involved. However, when my computer broke, I was grateful to have blogged several of my goals and experiences, thus letting me have a record of them.
  3. Sew an outfit.
  4. Go on a solo trip for fun. I’ve been wanting to try this for several years now!
  5. Exercise two to three times a week. Create a routine!
  6. Double my savings.
  7. Go on a road trip and visit friends along the way!
  8. Spend less time on my phone! This is one of the goals I failed in 2019.
  9. Find a side hustle/part time job.
  10. Write *creatively* on a regular basis. From third grade all the way through high school, everyday after school I used to spend hours just writing. I want to find joy in creating places and characters again.
  11. Try a capsule wardrobe for at least a week – challenge myself!
  12. Volunteer at least once a month.
  13. Spend a weekend solely on reflection and planning.
  14. Run 100 miles this year – this means running about two miles each week.
  15. Move in to a new living space.
  16. Visit a foreign country (I have two or three options in mind already).
  17. Get a haircut. I know this one is fairly simple compared to most of the others, but it needs to be done.
  18. Give up fast food for a month.
  19. Create a morning routine to do before work, could include reading, meditation, ext.
  20. Go to a chiropractor/attend physical therapy.

Likely later in the year I will think of “bonus” bucket list items I can include or switch out, depending on how I want to challenge myself and interests. Regardless, cheers to 2020!

Me and my cat Domino, ready for 2020!